23 Jan To Care or Not To Care About What People Think?
How to not care what people think is easy, when you read this: “You’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do”
Not everybody is focusing on your actions or opinions throughout the day. People tend to think mostly about their own lives and their own problems- the human race tends to be quite selfish when it comes to that. The human race is also, constantly evolving. The thoughts we had 10 years back is so different to the ones we have now. Ideas, views, opinions change on a very regular basis based on what people around us say, do or think and ironically, therein lies the problem.
Dealing with ever so changing thoughts may make you feel vulnerable whether someone agrees with you or not, or feel panicked after a serious discussion and leave you wondering “what does he/she think of me?”
The key factor on how to not care what people think really comes down to ONE thing: Do not let other people change your inner values, views or opinions unless it comes from someone you actually respect and love( like a close friend or loved ones).
Some philosophers would even suggest that we are in a constant state of flux, so much so that we cannot even say we have one, specific ‘self’ or a fixed personality. We are constantly changing. Change is good because not only does it help enhance your core values(when it’s necessary), it also means that even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. Either they will have changed their opinion of you, or they will be thinking about something entirely different
Also, realize that you can’t please all of the people all of the time, but you can please some of the people some of the time.It is impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations so there is no point in burning yourself out trying to do so. Just make sure that one of the people you please is you!
Being worried or anxious about what people think about you is very normal. But remember that even the most confident minds and ingenious individuals will worry about how they are being perceived, from time to time. So to give light to “how to not care what people think” – just remember, that the need to be loved and accepted: bonds us, so you need to choose who’s opinions and views you want to consider before letting it affect you.
Nehita is a mindfulness expert who writes extensively on lifestyle management, wellness and ways to lead a healthier and a happier life. She is a part of Aware’s expert team on meditation. She is also an avid artist who spends most her time dribbling amazing stories through art.