31 Jul How To Not Care/ Ignore Peoples Opinions About You!
Sometimes we get punched in the face by negative people, and it’s good. It’s good because it gives us the opportunity to become a better version of ourselves and let that negativity go.
For a long time, especially back in school, a large chunk of who I was, was dedicated to valuing the opinions every else had. I had to leave my house looking fabulous, trendy and chic in the mirror because it meant a lot to me then( it still does, but I do it differently). I figured it was better to please people than to look “stupid”.
Recently at work, I was looking into the same mirror, reflecting the same sentiments when someone else made me feel “stupid”. And it wasn’t the first time.
When some people have an opinion about you, it’s already in their head. There is nothing you can do to change it, or you’ll have to die trying. Instead of giving up your self-confidence, idiosyncrasies, quirks and individualistic perspectives to the people who put you down, learn to enjoy your individuality and trust that thoughts are not you. For example, when someone made me feel stupid, I had to take a step back and realize one thing: Just because they make me feel this way, doesn’t mean that I have to! Thoughts and triggers from their mind or yours are just thoughts. You don’t have to be associated with that, it’s just a thought….it has no power.
This is the one thing you should do to not care what people think- Become mindful. It might take a few days or even months to recover from your own thoughts drowning your self-esteem, but build and establish a strong mind. A mind where thoughts come and go, like a branch with birds sitting on it. The birds can fly away or can be joined by another one. Either way, it should not make a difference because at the end of the day thoughts, just like birds, will eventually spread their wings and fly.
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Nehita is a mindfulness expert who writes extensively on lifestyle management, wellness and ways to lead a healthier and a happier life. She is a part of Aware’s expert team on meditation. She is also an avid artist who spends most her time dribbling amazing stories through art.