25 Oct What to do with your Emotions?

The man is a social animal and in his social life, he has to deal with a lot of emotions. Sometimes he is happy, sometimes he is sad. Sometimes he is angry and annoyed and sometimes he is all excited. Anger, happiness, sadness, annoyance and excitement are all emotions and everyone experiences more than one of these emotions every day. Apart from these, there are several other emotions as well like fear, tenderness, calmness, nervousness, worry, etc. You are a human and it is ok to be emotional. However, you should never let your emotions get to your head and make you do things which you might regret later.

Be it a positive or  a negative emotion, there is a reason why they exist. While positive emotions are welcomed with open arms, negative emotions are often despised. The simple reason behind this is that positive emotions give mental peace while negative emotions take it away. Many times, when people are sad or angry, instead of dealing with it, they try to escape it with ignorance or diversion. Although it might seem to be working at that moment but in the long run, it won’t. Hence, instead of walking away from them you should try to accept and manage them. It will be tough initially but can be made easy with mindfulness.

Manage emotions with Mindfulness

Mindfulness is all about being aware of what is happening with you as well as around you. If you are an emotional person then it is not a problem as long as you are aware of the cause of your emotion. If you are happy then also you should try to find out the actual reason. Awareness of yourself and your surroundings is very good for your physical and mental well-being. Listed below are a few steps which will help you manage your emotions with mindfulness.

Step 1: Be Aware of your Emotion

In order to manage your emotion, you first need to be aware of what that emotion is doing to your body or which part it is affecting. If you will not have this awareness about your emotion then your response to it will be automatic and not manual. This is not at all good if you want to rule how you feel instead of getting ruled by it.

Step 2: Identify the cause of your emotion

When you are very frustrated or feeling ashamed of something, then do not run away from it. Instead, run towards it. Try to identify the reason behind your emotion. Many times one emotion gives rise to another one which in turn leads to another one and it goes on. For example, when people are stressed, they often get angry on small things. In anger, they might either get frustrated or do something which they regret later. They might not just feel guilty but also feel ashamed for doing what they did in anger. Thus, when you finally sit to identify the cause of your emotion, you will be able to reach the root cause of it. This wouldn’t have been possible if you would have tried to avoid your emotion of embarrassment. Moreover, this identification process will make you feel a little better if not much.

Step 3: Accept the way you are feeling

When you finally know what you are feeling and why you are feeling, accept it. Do not judge it nor try to justify it. If you are feeling embarrassed then accept your embarrassment. Say to yourself that the feeling is already here and it is completely fine. It will take a certain amount of time for this feeling to go away. Take deep breaths as this will help you feel more relaxed.

Step 4: Do some Mindful Exercise

When you have finally accepted your emotions, it is time to perform some mindful exercises. Go out for a slow walk if the weather is pleasant. Otherwise, you can perform mindful meditation which involves focusing on the breath or scanning your body from toe to head. You can even focus on your 5 senses. Doing all this will help you in diffusing your emotion.

If you are emotional then there is no harm in it as long as you know how to manage them without doing any harm to yourself or some other living being.

Purva Jain

Purva is a freelance writer from Udaipur, India. She covers a wide range of topics including health, lifestyle, news, food, and travel. You can reach out to her at [email protected].