06 Feb 3 Steps To Avoid Worrying What Other People Think Of You
The solution to how to not care what people think is to follow 3 key steps in life!
You know how you look in the mirror everyday after waking up? You check out your face, you think about your plans for the rest of the day, and most likely will never face the mirror again, except for when you have to GET DRESSED. Now, this may not be the case for everybody, but everyone will agree when I say that we all dress to impress! We fix our hair, we check our teeth, we pretend to get candid, it’s almost like we get ready to go on stage.
Famous or not, it’s obvious that looks matter! It’s the FIRST thing we judge involuntarily because it’s what everybody does, right?
From appearances to actions to lives- everything is moulded based on what other people perceive it to be.So what’s real? Do you want to tip-toe around others about what you’re passionate about? Do you wish to silently disagree about opinions and ideas? Or do you want to stand up for yourself when it matters? Let’s find out how to not care what people think!
STEP ONE: Don’t Let Opinions Get To Your Head: I must tell you a story about what happened today. My mother scolded me for something silly- now whether she was in a bad mood, or whatever- it was not nice to be on the receiving end of that negativity, and it’s so hard to not let emotions get to your head. So the trick is to let opinions just be opinions. Don’t waste energy, and stay mindful by having a neutral outlook to life.
However, if someone intentionally wants to put you down- understand that however good it may feel to get back at them, wise words don’t leave an angry mouth- so calm down first and then approach the person to have a productive chat.
STEP TWO: You Can’t Please Everybody: Don’t be a people pleaser! So many times I get so affected by someone important,(landlord/boss/handsome salesman) that I forget my TRUE values and splurge, behave or think to impress.This is really harmful to the mind.
Also, if you’ve done or said something in the past( even if it is 2 minutes back), let it go. You cannot slip into a time machine and rewind your life. Accept mistakes and learn from these lessons in life so that when it comes to someone you actually love- you won’t repeat it.
STEP THREE: Don’t Be Fake Or Dumb Yourself Down: I think when you do things that boost confidence or even hang around with people who are confident- it rubs off on you. One of my favorite makeup artists who does makeup for A- List celebrities said that she never gets fake around celebrities or tries to purposely sound less smart. Being confident in your abilities and CORE VALUES are very important. This way you won’t care if people agree with you or not- YOU will be proud of being honest and direct.
How to not care what people think- lies in the mind of every child. They always tell the truth and lately the world has forgotten to get REAL. Kids don’t get affected by social standards- they play from morning to night, to their heart’s content instead! Start living life the way you want, be fearless like you once were as a child. The only growth should be in knowing when to stand up and when to let nonsensical things go!
Nehita is a mindfulness expert who writes extensively on lifestyle management, wellness and ways to lead a healthier and a happier life. She is a part of Aware’s expert team on meditation. She is also an avid artist who spends most her time dribbling amazing stories through art.